The Opportunity
The Opportunity is a podcast for women who are ready to look at what they need to see to feel consistently embodied, empowered, and expressed as no one other than themselves. When we begin embracing, accepting, and loving ourselves powerfully enough to stop avoiding all the energy leaks that keep us from standing in integrity with our radical self-responsibility, we re-open that line of communication with source/the universe and become receptive to the vision that pulls our heart forward.
Every experience is an opportunity to embody more of yourself, trust yourself and your life, and open up more of your heart to be more receptive. Remember this, your unique frequency is the only frequency you can create your reality from.
Haila Macedo is an Embodiment and Human Design mentor for women that desire to embody themselves powerfully, refine their expression, and live in alignment with their authority and life. She's a 6/2 Manifesting Generator with the LAX of Revolution 2. A Leo sun, Gemini moon, and Virgo rising with her north node in Aries, chiron in Gemini, and a stellium in the 12th house. These conversations are going deep into energetic expression.
*Human Design is a system that helps you understand how you function so that you can decrease resistance and increase your quality of life, experience your potential, and be more you.
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The Opportunity
What 'Taking the Leap' Looks Like with Jessica Reyes
Jessica Reyes' remarkable journey from Minnesota to Arizona to Hawaii is a testament to the power of intuition and self-trust. Jessica's story takes us through her courageous leap into the unknown, a move that not only changed her geographical location but also transformed her inner world.
She shares how small, intentional steps became the building blocks of her confidence, allowing her to break free from societal and familial constraints that had long stifed her voice. Through her experiences, we explore the vital role of incremental progress and the internal work needed to embrace change and personal growth.
Embodying change and resilience, Jessica's journey of self-discovery is a vivid illustration of the transformative power of supportive communities and mentors. Her adventures reveal the essence of navigating life with self-love and authenticity. Jessica's story underscores the potential of storytelling to reshape our realities, empowering women to recognize their own worth and potential.
As Jessica recounts her challenges and triumphs, she highlights the importance of listening to one's intuition and trusting the process of growth, even in the face of fear and uncertainty.
You can connect with Jessica through the links below:
Blog: https://strawberrypickingwithjessica.com/
Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JessicasChannel_
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicaschannel_/
Haila Macedo:
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Website & Offerings: https://hailamacedo.com
Welcome to the opportunity. I'm your host, Hila, and I'll be leading you through the difficult conversations that we need to have in order to feel embodied, empowered and expressed as no one other than ourselves, than ourselves. This podcast is an invitation to rise up to your soul's knowing that everything on your path is, in fact, an opportunity to embody more of yourself, to refine your frequency and to align with the vision that you've been gifted. Remember, you're not here to be anyone other than yourself, and the only way to plug into the magic that awaits you on your path is to plug into who you authentically came here to be Ready for more. Let's get into it, For more, let's get into it. All I can say about the podcast episode you're about to hear is wow.
Speaker 1:Today we have Jessica Reyes, who was a client of mine in the process during COVID, and we're going to go into the nitty gritty details that usually freeze people in their tracks and make them return to comfort. Jessica did not do that. She kept going because of her perspective on life. You're going to feel so deeply inspired, so wildly motivated to take your own leap into the unknown after this podcast episode. She's currently living in Hawaii. She's a creative writer, a mentor and a speaker, and she hosts workshops. Her business is called Faithful Right Home and she also has a YouTube channel that I'll link below. All right, so today I'm here with Jessica, who was a client, and we worked together in the process. Am I getting that right, Because it's been so long?
Speaker 2:It's been years. Yeah, it feels like years.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, and I just want to get right into it. Jessica, can you share your story of where you were at, not only physically on this earth, but like what you were navigating internally before you before we started working together, and then your experience as a woman with within yourself during that journey?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would love to and, first and foremost, thank you so much for having me on. This is such a beautiful podcast and a beautiful opportunity to share my story and to give back in that way, and I just want to thank you again for your beautiful help and assistance during all of that metamorphosis process. Of course, yeah, very confined, and I felt very trapped and I knew that something needed to change. It was during the pandemic where I felt like I hit rock bottom and in the best way, where I just knew this wasn't the right life for me. There's something internally inside of me just was calling me for something greater, something bigger, and I wasn't sure what it was and I prayed about it and I've always felt connected to spirit, to God, and I always feel heard and supported in that way. So that was really a good foundation to start with and I prayed about it and soon after, I found beautiful women in my life that were leading me and guiding me, and you were one of them and I remember when we were working together, I was so.
Speaker 2:I was really fearful. I was really fearful of stepping into my power, of seeing all that I could do and all that I could accomplish and it was almost scary to think that I could, that I had that much power, because for so long I was told that I wasn't and my voice was something that was really just lineage wise, was shut down in our family. Just the women's voice in general was oftentimes taken and shushed in our family. So that was something that I was unlearning and stepping into my power. So in that beautiful metamorphosis process I knew that I needed to step away and I moved all across the country to Arizona where I felt like I just did so much healing. I just felt so much.
Speaker 2:It was really me just getting away from in the most beautiful, poetic way, leaving the cold Minnesota, you know darkness to this radiant, sunny place, paradise really. And it was such a contrast to what I grew up in and and to see what I was capable of and to trust myself, to really trust myself, to know that if I followed through and if I took the first step, like the universe spirit, god, god was going to catch me, I was going to be okay because I trust myself. And that was, I think, one of the most beautiful life-changing lessons that I learned. It was if you take the first step, the next one will appear and we will be caught.
Speaker 1:So, first of all, like the way that you expressed it, I had like chills with you, know, in regards to your voice and your power. Like you expressed it in such a beautiful and simple way, but in a way that I don't think a lot of women know how to express. It's almost like you know what's. You know that something is being suppressed within you, but you don't understand the depth at which it's being suppressed. So I think that you expressed that so beautifully. And I want to touch on something that you said about the first step. Can you express your internal experience in taking that first step? Because I think that a lot of women feel like that. That step or that decision should just feel so easy, but in reality, our whole process was working on you making that decision right. We did internal work for months for you to just make that one decision, because that's how important that first step is.
Speaker 2:Yes, absolutely. And when we say first step, that is such a misconception, because there are so many little steps that lead up to that big step. And it's about trusting yourself. I mean, even if I just think of all the things that led up to me calling you and our and our call to just, you know, working together. It was praying about it, it was making sure that I was in the good mindset for it, it was trusting myself and trusting you too, and being open to this beautiful experience and and financially too, I think that would. That's also something that people women often think about. It's like are we worthy of receiving this from ourselves? And you absolutely are. You absolutely are. And when you invest in yourself, you're going to see your whole world and your whole life transform. But specifically when that was the first step, it was terrifying, truly it was terrifying. It was.
Speaker 2:I remember just feeling like I couldn't be in my body sometimes because it was so scary, because I was like, oh my gosh, I'm actually doing this. And it felt like it was just you know me against the world, like I packed my whole car up and drove across the country and I was like you know, you think of the worst case scenario, but when you just take the leap of faith. And I was like you know, you think of the worst case scenario and but when, when you're, when you just take the leap of faith and you're right, but it keeps us small and it keeps us in in that ungrowing phase, and when, when you're, when I was able to break free from that, I just saw how loved and how supported we are in this process and and life really does love us, life God wants us to live our full potential, and I think that was really where I got my foot in the door, to really see that and to trust that and to believe in that. And from there it's just been, I mean, a snowball effect From Arizona I kept going further west and I moved to Hawaii and it has been the best decision ever.
Speaker 2:I felt like I really found my spirit here. I felt like I really connected to God and to my potential and to my power. And every day is still a learning lesson, of course, and I'm experiencing, but now I do it from such a joyous place, from a place of trust, and to say that, to see where I was before in such a fearful state, and I just feel so grateful. I feel so grateful for that first step, because you look back and it feels like a past life. It doesn't even feel like me anymore.
Speaker 1:I feel you. Sometimes I look at some old pictures and I'm like, oh my God, what did it feel like? You don't even remember what it feels like to have been that person. You don't even it's wild, right Because you remember the experiences of like fear and and how horrible that was, but you don't remember how it feels like to be that anymore. It really is a beautiful process in in which it almost feels like you were talking about. You know, lineage work. In the beginning it feels like each woman in our lineage lived maybe one max to two lives within their lifetime. Right, if they had the courage to at least take one big leap. But we, because of all the resources that we have, we get to live like 10, 20 evolutionary lifetimes and catapult our lineage forward in like the most profound ways.
Speaker 2:That is such a beautiful way of putting it Absolutely and you think of just how you want to be. You want to do better than your parents, and your parents want you to do better than you did, and they did the best that they could. And in this process of really trusting and being being the woman that God created and called you to be, it's going to require a lot of those shedding, a lot of that rebirth, a lot of that expression, because that's what it is when we're, as women we came here to, to birth things, to to live fully in this beautiful experience and and to, yeah, just move forward, move forward and trust and in love and I love how you said that, how it, yeah, it's like a you're shedding all of these, these lives that you, you know you're, you're being birthed in you.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So I want to zoom in a little bit on the point at which you went to Arizona and you had the experience that you had, and you noticed that that wasn't the place, because I feel like this is where right women would go oh, I made the wrong decision. Look what I did. I failed. I can't trust my body. I can't trust my intuition. I wasn't, you know, supported by life. I wasn't, you know, supported by life, by God. God did not catch me.
Speaker 1:So I want to zoom in on that internal experience that you had with yourself, like what was going on there? What was your narrative that led you to keep going? And I remember that happening and I remember the switch going off in me, like I'm gonna, I'm gonna watch her, like I want to see if she's gonna keep going or if she's gonna turn around, because this happens to everyone, right? Like, let me just make that clear you know you cannot live a life that is full and rich in experience and aliveness without, like, having these experiences. And also life doesn't want you to conform or to get comfortable, right that that's not where aliveness thrives, like, if life isn't adding to the richness and the texture of your story, then where's the aliveness? So I'm very curious about your inner experience with this, how you navigated that.
Speaker 2:Oh, that is such a rich question because, like you said, it's something that we all go through and it's a process, right? You? You moving forward and you are figuring it out, and sometimes things change and that's a beautiful thing. So when I was there, I loved it when I first got there. But the year was coming to a close and I just felt like it wasn't right and at first I was kind of questioning like, oh well, can I do this? Like where my body's like telling me that I want to go to paradise, I want to go to Hawaii, but that's crazy because I've never been and you know I was telling myself these things. And then I really had to catch myself, because you really are the story that you tell yourself, what you say to yourself, really does matter.
Speaker 2:And when I was able to really just catch myself and say, wait, but I've done all these things and I've gotten this far and my body has taken me this far and I've trusted myself this far, why, why can't things be different now? What have I learned? And can I integrate what I've learned? And it was in that, that pause for me, where I had to stop the avalanche of of negative stories and and say wait, my body's calling me for something greater and change. I know that change is here for me and if it's scary, that means that it's. It's right Because I, it means that I'm growing.
Speaker 2:And that was such a beautiful experience because, like I said, I would not be here if it weren't for the amazing women in my life that helped and guided me. And that's why I also am now in this process to helping and guiding women, because it just changed my life life and I just see how it truly makes a world difference for that young girl, for that young woman evolving and really becoming and blossoming. And it also really was the community I really found myself around, people who loved and supported me and saw me and knew that I was destined for more and I was destined for greatness, and not being shy from that, not making myself small and not dimming my light anymore and saying no, I deserve a beautiful life, a romantic life with myself, with so much self-love in paradise. Why wouldn't I? Why would that not? And then that mentality. And when that mentality changed, everything wouldn't I? Why would that not, you know? And then that mentality and when that mentality changed, everything changed Because I started to see my worthiness and I started to see how this life really does want the best for us.
Speaker 2:And again, when I started taking those small steps and it really is you have to embody the person that you want to be, the woman that you want to be, because I learned this the hard way Without action, you're not getting anywhere and you can have self-doubt, you can be there as you're building yourself and you're becoming the woman that you say you're going to be, but that action is crucial. Without action, because when I first met you, my journey was very ungrounded. It was very much, um, very, very spiritual and not very grounded. It wasn't rooted in action. And I had to really learn that and to trust that action and to trust that I knew what I was doing and that I was going to get it wrong and that that was okay.
Speaker 2:And I think I'm still learning that. I think it's something, as women, we are all learning and, um, the the beautiful thing about being corrected by God, by ourselves, is that it is a blessing to be corrected as a blessing because you are, you're being adjusted and if you weren't adjusted, you would still be going down the wrong path. So, also seeing, seeing those small nudges from from, from love from God as as as very loving and in a way that is supporting of us becoming who we came here to be.
Speaker 1:I love that reframe and I'm curious how? Because this sounds like something that, because this sounds like something that, the way that you're speaking, you sound like someone that constantly reframes right, so something comes up. I'm assuming that if it's negative, you reframe it into something positive Instantly. So where did that come from? So where did that come from, um, at what? Is it something that just you started to do and you adapted to? Or did you have a moment where you said, if I don't constant, if I don't constantly reframe this into something positive, this, this journey, is going to be really hard. So how was your experience with the reframing?
Speaker 2:It's something that took practice and that it took integrating. I learned it from experience, that's the best way that I can describe it. And we live in a body, we live in our flesh, we live in our ego. Our ego is always going to tell us these stories, it's always going to be there and I think once we accept that and we know that, but we know that we, as the fraction of light that we are, we get to choose what we believe.
Speaker 2:It's like you know your thoughts coming out. It's like a person walking in and saying something to you that is offensive or that you know is not nice. At the end of the day, it's only going to affect you and offend you if you believe them. So that's how you see, that's how I see my thoughts and I choose to believe, I choose what I subscribe to, and that's how powerful you are. When you're able to detach and you're able to see your thoughts in that way, you are so powerful. You, your, your thoughts, create your reality. Only you are the one that's stopping yourself.
Speaker 2:And when I saw that, when I fully believe that and just felt it in my bones, everything changed for me. It was, it was like night and day I was like, oh I, it's always been me versus me, it's never been anything else. And in seeing that and to be able to say, okay, these thoughts aren't very nice to me right now, but I know who I am and I know that they are just passing by. And I know that I know who I am and I know that with so much peace and so much self-love, because I've cultivated that and I've grown it within me and that faith to know that, yeah, I do get to decide who I am and no one else gets to decide that. So it's been wisdom gained from experience.
Speaker 1:That's amazing because it does take a lot of effort. I know that you know, integration takes a lot of effort and I think that a lot of people believe that if they learn something, that's it, right, it stops there, but it doesn't like. You've repeated over and over action matters. You've repeated over and over action matters, right, repetition matters, and it really is the only way to consistency, to integrate something. I would love to, if you're comfortable, touch on the experience that you had as a woman when you wanted from the people in your field, as we all do as women. You know family because, literally because, they truly believe that we're unsafe. Right, that is the story that our lineage holds that if you choose to be an individual and walk away from the tribe, you are unsafe. Like, women are not safe to follow their intuition, to follow their bodies.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, this is such a close topic to my heart because it, when I first was going through that process, when I first left Minnesota, I mean I just want you to, I'll give you a picture we were a very close-knit family. I mean we, you know, it was just us. There were no immediate family in our neighborhood, in our city, in our state. My parents were very enclosed. They really didn't have a lot of friends, it was just they've made sure that we were very secluded in a way because they felt unsafe, made sure that we were very secluded in a way because they felt unsafe. You know immigrant parents in St Paul Minnesota. You know they felt very unsafe and to keep their children safe they needed them in the house and to know where they were at all times and they did the best that they could and were very, very smothering in a lot of ways where we didn't really get to grow in that way.
Speaker 2:And I was a middle child so I always found myself venturing off and traveling the world. I think in college I went to Australia and I traveled later on to Ireland and did all these solo trips. So I've always been the more adventurous one, I would say, and so they kind of knew, I think from a young age that I was kind of kind of branched out and do something different. But when I first mentioned even the idea of moving to Arizona I mean my mom just lost it she was like, oh my gosh, like how are you even going to get there? And, um, bless my mom. I love her so much, she taught me so much that woman is so strong and powerful and she doesn't even know how strong and powerful she is. And she deals a lot with fear. Fear is a really big part of her identity and in our lineage and it's something that I really had to release and forgive and let go of. And it was such a beautiful process because I in in that process I saw her being very scared for me and, yeah, petrified. I mean she she was like, please don't go. This is a terrible idea. Like what if something happens to you? I can't, I won't be able to help you.
Speaker 2:You know she felt so helpless for me and to just see her and to hear that and me, her daughter, reassuring her that I was gonna be fine and that I was gonna follow my dreams because there is no other way to live. I just was not gonna say no to who God created me to be. I was not gonna say no to love, and once I was sure on that, I think she saw just how dedicated and how sure I was not going to say no to love. And once I was sure on that, I think she saw just how dedicated and how how sure I was of that. And I think she, she, she saw my power and I think she also maybe saw it in herself too and and maybe remembered how driven she was when she decided to come to the U? S and start a life that was better for us.
Speaker 2:So it was very hard at first. I mean, my no one agreed with the idea and they thought I was crazy and they're like, are you sure you're going to do it? Even some self doubt and and and you know, it even had me questioning myself and I was like, can I do this? But as I moved forward and, like I said, just constantly taking that action, no matter how small, and just planning little by little, it, it worked out and it worked out beautifully, things started falling into place and I think I showed them just how powerful they also are and I think there was so much admiration.
Speaker 2:The day that I left, I remember I gave my mom a hug and I was like tearing up and she just told me how proud of me she was and she's never said that before. So to hear her say that and to to know that she was still frightened for me but to just, I think, to see her little bird like fly away and just, I think, reach new heights that she never thought that we could and that she could, was just really beautiful for our lineage, for our family, for the women, for the women in our household, to just see the things that we were capable of doing and becoming.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's beautiful. How do you think, what do you think would happen if you would have stayed because of fear In regards to your mother and the people who were watching you?
Speaker 2:Oh, that honestly, yeah, it's sad to think about, but I think they would have honestly believed that love and that dreams aren't possible and that fear wins. I think if I would have stayed, I would have taught them that and I would have taught myself that. And it makes me even just sad to think about that because I think about all the beautiful, rich experiences that I've learned and just like my life now and like just how full it is of love and how much I've grown because of me stepping into that unknown and trusting myself, and that there's always this false sense of security and it's so false. And when you're able to let go of that, when you're able to step in and do these things that you aren't sure you can do, you realize that you can. Along the way and in the process of becoming this person. So, yeah, I think I would have shown them that I would have been a terrible example and I would have been a terrible example changed now that you're right. So we haven't.
Speaker 1:Um, obviously, jessica has mentioned that. You know she, she went to Hawaii and all of that, so we'll dive into that in a bit. But now that you are in Hawaii, that you've traversed like this canyon of an experience and you've navigated so much, it hasn't been just, oh you, you took the sleep and you found the perfect place and everything was perfect and perfect and perfect it was. You had this whole journey and you experience, you had experiences that if people were watching you, they could have felt that that was failure, that you were wrong, that you didn't get it right. Right, but that's not what it was. This. Everyone experiences this journey in their own way.
Speaker 1:And your mother, having watched all of that and now seeing you thriving in your own life as this new woman because you know, for those listening, like I told Jessica in the beginning that I don't even recognize her and I always say to everyone, to all of my clients, like, save that first, uh, recording that I give you. Do you still have that? I sure I do. Oh my god. Because when you go back, you're like, you're shocked, because you embodiment transforms you physically, you look different, you, your voice changes, everything changes through embodiment, like if you want to makeover, don't go to salon. Use embodiment because like it changes your frequency and your cells and your appearance. It's wild. So now that she's watching you, you know and seeing you, how have you experienced your mother transform?
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, I mean it's one. It's done wonders to our relationship and there's so much love now. I mean, before we were, you know, there was some animosity and we were, you know, you know the mother-daughter dynamic and the mother-daughter wound, and now I just I hold her with so much love because I just see how scared she was and is still and how she tried her best. And now when I call, I think she sees, she sees my light and she sees, you know, there's so much admiration and to to, to hear that from from your mother, when, when at first it was, it was honestly jealousy and and I had to accept that and I had to, I had to just love her through that and love her through her process, and to know that I was not only doing this for me but I was doing this for her and for our lineage and for the women in my life. And so to see her move through that process, to now be on the other side where her heart is more open, and there's so much admiration and love for my journey and a mother's love is always so strong and so beautiful. So, even though there are wounds there, at the end of the day I know she wants the best for me and that she still loves me, and she even says it now. She's like, oh my gosh, you're so beautiful. She's like you're radiating, you're always so happy, you're so joyous.
Speaker 2:And I think for her to see that mirror, to see that that's possible and to see that one of her daughters made it, I think that is just, I think that's the best gift I could have ever given her, honestly and yeah, to be able to, for her to, to see that a beautiful life is possible. And I always remind her, like mom, fear is not real. Truly fear is not real. It's all in mind. And once we, once you see that and once you are able to trust that and I think I'm like slowly working on her still, I think it's I'm always reminding her mom, you have to be kind to yourself. You know the thoughts that you think are are the house that you build around you and how you see yourself and how others see you. So I think it's it's always me, you, you know, helping her and pulling her along. But I mean the conversations that we have now are just so much more fruitful and they're so much more loving and she's just so happy for me and she sees just how how this journey has transformed me and, like you said, it's it was not perfect.
Speaker 2:It was not always sunshine and rainbows, but in those storms I learned to trust God, I learned so much faith, I learned how to ground more, I learned how to keep my focus on what actually mattered, even though there was all these other things moving around.
Speaker 2:And truly I'm so grateful and I'm so blessed for those, those growing seasons, because without them I would not be the woman that I am today, I would not be embodying the, the lessons learned, the standing my ground, being firm in my courage and my truth and and saying you know what, like you can say whatever you want or you can think whatever you want, but this is who I am and it took a, it took a lot. I mean I am. I am miles from where I started. I was very highly, you remember, I was very I honestly, I was very timid, I was shy almost I want to say like I was scared to use my voice and and I had to learn some tough lessons to grow out of that. But I'm so blessed for them and I'm so much better because of them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, yeah, I mean, the change is wild. And you are so right. Like the best gift we can give our mothers in this lifetime is to show them that it is possible, like that is the only. I believe that there's no greater gift. Like we think that we're and this is a part of the mother wound right, like thinking that we're pleasing our mothers or giving her this gift of staying where she wants us to stay, but that's not the truth. The truth is that what you did is the greatest gift that you can give your mother. Like imagine, you know, this is just the way that I see it, because I think that I truly deeply believe that we only understand life when we understand death. Right, but if we're constantly believing that, like, just death isn't a part of life and we're pushing it away, then we're not going to live correctly. We have to understand impermanence to understand how to live. So if our mothers leave this lifetime seeing what was possible through their daughters, there's no greater gift, because that means that they can leave with their heart open. Like you mentioned, your mother's heart has opened because of what she has seen through you right, and there is no greater gift.
Speaker 1:It's totally different with like a son, you know it's, it's, it is the daughter because and there is that jealousy, that competition aspect, because she sees you as her. There is this enmeshment that takes place, which is normal for everyone, but it is truly wild to see that dynamic take place and then to see the mother receive the daughter when the daughter has gone and done the thing that maybe that was the mother's dream, you know, and that's deeply receiving. It's not because it's at the core of it, it's a woman that is jealous of another woman, right, but isn't it funny and this happens to every situation that I see within women it's wild how the mother is jealous of the daughter when the daughter is being belittling herself, living as in her smallness, but she receives her, even though it is a woman that is jealous of another woman. She receives her when she's living that truth, right. It is that magic, yet, because usually when someone is jealous of someone else, the bigger they get Right, the more jealous jealousy comes into play.
Speaker 1:But that doesn't actually happen, and that was actually one of my fears when I was going through my mother wound, which was, if I live this life like my mother and I already in conflict, right, and I can sense that there's this, you know, underground jealousy or competitiveness, and if I go and do this thing, then we're not going to have a relationship at all, then she's totally gonna remove herself from this relationship. But that's not what happened. The opposite happened and we do. I don't know why this happens, but it probably is this magical experience for the mother to. It's like when you're watching a movie, right, and there's like this whole journey, and then at the end you see that the person made it and there's like this heart, emotional, heart opening experience and it's inevitable. You know your mother is connected to you, so it's inevitable. You know your mother is connected to you, so it's inevitable that what you're experiencing, she's not going to experience.
Speaker 1:She doesn't have to live what you're living to experience what you're experiencing. So that heart opening that you experienced and you're still experiencing on your journey. Your mother had to experience because you are connected and this is how we heal our lineage.
Speaker 2:It is a very systematic magical experience.
Speaker 1:It's energetic. We don't have to make our mothers be a certain way, or it has nothing to do with that. It has to do with you Everything that you experience in your body. Your mother is going to experience, your daughter is going to experience, and that is our responsibility as women. And what a blessing is it? That the healing journey is go, live your life, be happy, do what makes you happy. You know that's the healing journey. It's not. You have to suffer, you have to degrade yourself.
Speaker 1:No, it's not. It's literally believing yourself, love yourself, trust yourself, you know, believe in your worth, believe that you're worthy of being supported by life, by God, believe that you're meant to have a story that fills you up and fulfills you and and makes you smile like believe in that right, versus feeling confined and and chained to a story that tells you that you're not going to be supported. If you follow your body's wisdom, if you follow your intuition, it's this, this journey, and it's not. You know, I don't believe in in homogenization or conditioning or generic beliefs that this is for everyone, but this I do believe it's for every woman. This, this is a truth. Escaping it right Like this, is how we heal our lineage. It's by following our body, following our intuition and living that life, and then, it's like magic, the women in our lineage begin to experience this heart opening. You know thing?
Speaker 2:as well.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, it was a ripple effect. I saw it within my sister too. I mean the relationship with my sister also. You know, I felt that jealousy and that competition as well. So it's not even just the relationship with me and my mother, but all of the women involved.
Speaker 2:And you're so right. Like you were saying, yeah, it is a lineage. We're all connected. Every cell in our body has a copy of my sisters and my moms and our DNA is has the copies of of my sisters and my moms and you know our dna is, is is very connected and when and when you are able to grow and I always this is what I always say when you're able to welcome more love, your dna expands and there is more light that is activated within it.
Speaker 2:And they feel that because they, it radiates off you, you, I mean it's it's, it's it's a light that comes from within and there's no denying it, there's no shutting it off. And I think, like I said, to be, to be that mirror and to have someone in in your lineage and someone that you love because, at the end of the day, like there may be competition, there may be jealousy, but they're my sisters and I think that they saw that, that that this was possible and that, deep down, of course, they wanted me to win. There might've been something on the surface, but love always wins and love, love has always shown me that it always. It might just take a little bit more time for them to shed that, that that dirt or, you know, wash that dirt off but that they always wanted the best for me at the end.
Speaker 1:So tell me a little bit about your, just the continuation of your journey, right? So you went to Arizona and then the year was coming to end and you could feel that you wanted to go to Hawaii. So can you just share with us how that journey went up until where you're at now?
Speaker 2:Yeah. So I felt like Arizona just wasn't quite the place for me to be anymore and I kind of was questioning and I kind of had this dream in my, this vision. I feel like you know that you know we, you know we get like we get these downloads and get these, these loving pushes in our hearts and our body telling us where to go. And I was questioning a little bit. I was like, is that that's too good to be true? Like I've never been to Hawaii, I've never visited, never visited. Like am I just supposed to sell everything and just go, just get a one-way ticket and go? And that's exactly what I did. It turns out, yes, um, but it was like again, it was a very scary process and it took. It took trusting myself, it took planning, it took, um, it took myself, it took. It took me to a place where accepting that I was not perfect and I didn't have to be and I don't have to be.
Speaker 2:And I think that was the most beautiful lesson throughout the journey, because I used to be so hard on myself and I used to say, no, I need to figure this out right and this needs to be right the first time. I mean, I came from immigrant parents where some things were life and and death. Some documents that I needed to help them figure out were that serious. And to be able to shed that and to be able to connect more with my inner child and just to let her play and just to let her know that she came here to have fun and we came here to have a good time and to get messy sometimes and that spilling something is not the end of the world and that mistakes happen, and just to be able to remother myself in that way was such a beautiful, beautiful self-discovery, self-love journey that every woman, I believe, goes through.
Speaker 2:And once you're able to connect with your inner child and remind them that they're safe and your old version, your old self too, knowing that fear comes up, that they're going to be okay and that you get to mess up, that it's totally fine and so moving through that was the same time when I was moving through, moving to Hawaii, and that's, I think, the most beautiful lesson and the most beautiful process that I went through. It was allowing myself to be me and to accept myself where I was at, knowing that I was not perfect and I did not need to be perfect to be loved, was eye-opening, was catapulting, catapulted my self-love journey. It was eye-opening, it catapulted my self-love journey and it really allowed me to see what I was capable of. It really is just one step at a time. You just put one foot in front of the other and not needing to know how everything unfolds or what's going to happen five years from now or 10 days from now.
Speaker 1:It really was about being present and being in the moment and knowing that all change and all gifts happen. From that point, how is your process with? I'm gonna use a couple of terms that the women listening may feel familiar with, just a couple of generic terms like failure and feeling blocked right? So so let's say, because I know very well the experience of buying a one-way ticket somewhere, you know it's a journey, because then what you're saying is okay.
Speaker 1:Well, I trust the process. I'm going to figure it out as I'm walking. You know the path. I don't have to have it all figured out, which, if you master that like mastering the declaration that I trust one step at a time and I don't have to have everything perfect in order to make this decision let's actually let's first touch on that. How does that, I'm curious like in your body? How does that feel, like this way of navigating life where you're saying I trust one step at a time, I trust one foot in front of the other? How does that feel in your body? How does that change your perspective and your relationship with life? How does that add to your relationship with God versus no, I need to have it all figured out, like I need to plan everything and everything needs to be set for me to take the step.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh. Well, first I have to thank you because you're the one who taught me just how to tone, hone in on my body and where I would feel that. I learned that I was a sacral authority and that, um, I had a lot of emotions that I needed to move through before I made a decision, and that was so eyeopening just to know that, just to be able to see that blueprint and just reflect and say, wow, yeah, actually I do feel a tingle in my sacral when it's right for me, when it feels like it's the right choice, and I feel goosebumps and just being able to trust my body. You were one of the first people in my life that taught me that. So thank you so much. That is. That is huge, because that is what living and having heaven on earth is. It is you being safe in your body, it is you creating that heaven within yourself that you then create outside, and so I mean that was just eye opening, knowing that you have the power to create heaven on earth. I think that was one of the first most beautiful things embodying and feeling it in your body and knowing that you are safe and being able to trust that. Trust that feeling and that knowing and to know that you are not your emotion. That's also a big key factor.
Speaker 2:That was a huge takeaway for me. You're not your emotions. Your emotions are energy in motion and there's something that you're flowing through, that you are experiencing, but you are not your emotions. Your feeling and your knowing is within you and that is what grounds you, and that is what needs to ground you at all, at all times, and not afraid of those, those sticky emotions, and being able to let them come and just say okay, I'm here for you have a seat, we're going to talk, and then I'm going to let you go and and, and, that being as as far as it goes, but with the magic that when we, when we try to plan everything and we try to, like, micromanage everything, we take away so much magic away from the process. We take away so much of the creativity that God wants to, the presence that God wants to gift us with and and to surprise us with. That's what the unknown is. It's a surprise, it's a surprise from God. It's and it's and and, as we know, god is really yourself, right, it is you discovering more parts of yourself, and when you take that away from yourself, you're taking away the magic of it all. That's really what it is. That's what I've discovered and the point of really taking it one step at a time and knowing that you can trust yourself.
Speaker 2:It's also about flowing, because you have this idea in your head of what it's going to turn out to be like, but, like I said, god has this such a more magical, beautiful, extravagant plan that you just have no idea.
Speaker 2:I even think about that now, with like dating and how I had this idea of myself and like this, this. Now you know possible new partner that I'm talking to is just someone that I never would have imagined, but it's just so beautiful and so romantic and I'm having this beautiful romance in paradise, this beautiful love story, and just that was. When you're able to let go and surrender, you just see how loved you are and how it's always working out for you. It is. It is always in your best interest and when you try to control and plan everything, you you energy up and you close off to it and it's one of the worst things you can do for yourself and others. It's just about letting it go and letting it flow necessarily remember you having this experience with control, but did you feel like you struggled with control before you?
Speaker 1:set out on this journey.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think we all struggle with control.
Speaker 1:It's just because I think that some people, some women, exert it or express it more in their energy, whereas some women because you do have a softer nature, you know also, we don't know right Because, like, depending on your background, you may be a little spicy and a little saucy, because my background is, you know, is Brazilian. Yeah, like I may come off as soft, but at home, like you know, we all know that the boss is the woman, so we have, like this sassy spicy nature and that can. I think that's also very, yeah, controlling right In its own sense. But it's interesting because you do have a softer nature, you know and I'm assuming that and correct me if I'm wrong but because your mother felt very much like like the queen of the household, like, right, the matriarch of the household, what that does, is it kind of like, even though the daughters have big energy too within the household, it makes them small and shy.
Speaker 1:Because this is the experience that I had when I was, you know, with, when I was younger, living with my mother, and I was thought to be the girl that never speaks, like that was literally me. I would, you know, when I would be in Brazil, like even I would nod my head, yes and no. I would never talk, never use my voice, because my voice was very controlled. You had to say the right, right thing or you're going to get in trouble, right? So it was very suppressed. You can't trust yourself, um? So you see I'm I totally steered away from the question. I don't even remember what the question was.
Speaker 2:You asked about control. I'm gonna let you yeah about control, correct?
Speaker 1:so how was your experience in yeah, just your, your experience, uh, the evolutionary experience that you've had with control from then until now? Because you spoke a lot about, about false security, which is so correct, and I think that I know for a fact that most women that don't trust the unknown, what really holds them down is a sense of false security. Is a sense of false security, right? And that false security, which is very external, leads us to really just cut off our relationship with our body, with life and with God. So how has your evolution with control been?
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, first I just want to say the quote that has gotten me through so many times of letting go of the control is actually have it posted here and I just love it so much, I love reading it. It says never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God, and that just, I think, encompasses everything. It's, yeah, it's knowing that you're so loved and you're so held. And yeah, control is a big part of my life. I mean, I was scared, I was my lineage. That's one of the big healing healing my lineage, part of it was. And really knowing that we as women are worthy, we're worthy of not being cheated on, we're worthy of being loved, we're worthy of being nurtured and supported and feeling beautiful. And I mean there was, there's so much of that and I can just I just see where I am now and just to, to see you know past me and to hear that and to just I was just so fearful and I think that that's what that's what control is and it's it's very much the shadow, right, it's very much the not knowing that there is better, not knowing that if you let go, that you are so supported and you are so loved, it's, it's I almost want to say it's um. It's almost like it just doesn't know better. Like you just have to love it. You just have to love it through the process and that's what I've learned.
Speaker 2:Like your ego is not, it's not bad. Your ego is not here to, you know, try to make life miserable. It really just wants to keep you safe. Like that's really at the end of the day. Like it's really what it's trying to do. It's your part of you that is disconnected from source. It's disconnected from God because it's of this world, and when you're able to integrate your mind, body and soul, you're able to see that it's there to work for you. It's there to teach you when you need to eat, when you need to shower, when you know the basics. But beyond that, it's not letting it, don't let it control you.
Speaker 2:Beyond that, and I mean again, it's just so much wisdom that we, as women, pick up and that we also learn from one another when we share our stories, when we share our failures, when we share, I mean we just hear how we speak to one another, because it's how you speak to yourself. You know, I feel the love from you because I know you've also worked on yourself and your mother wound just the way that you interact with other women and you support one another. I mean it's, it's, it's a snowball effect when you see a woman, a woman living in her power and just affirming that she's worthy. You know it, it opens something within you and it makes you see that that is also possible for you and that is also a great gift. I think that you can also give others and be that mirror for someone who might need to see it that day.
Speaker 1:I can like just continue for another hour, but I'm going to bring it to a close because, yeah, I know that I won't stop, because this conversation has been so delicious I feel like we can just keep pulling the threads and more and more will come out. Jessica, is there a message, like an intuitive message, that you would like to leave for the women listening?
Speaker 2:Yes, I would love to just remind you all that you are so loved and that you are so held and that you are so worthy of being vulnerable and of truly stepping into the calling that God has placed on your heart. And it really is as simple as taking it day by day and making that daily action, that vote towards the person that you want to be and that action towards a better you tomorrow.
Speaker 1:Yes, I hope everyone takes that like really just to heart and begins to follow through on their actions and their decisions and their intuitive nudges and feels very inspired, because your story is very inspiring and you have such a beautiful voice. It's so obvious that you're speaking from a fully open heart and embodied confidence, because you've navigated the journey and you it's very obvious that, like you've, you have found yourself in the unknown right, like you've established you mentioned before. You see, this is this is where it gets tricky because, like, we're ending but you just keep going on forever.
Speaker 1:But you spoke earlier about, you know, leaving your body when it got too hard and feeling like that, that association, and then now feeling grounded in your body and trusting in your body and understanding how your body works as a woman energetically. And so it's so obvious that you've found your grounding and your footing within the unknown and it just makes you unstoppable and it opens up your heart so wide and it's so felt like just your presence and your energy and your voice is so beautiful to receive and to be around. So thank you so much for being here. I really appreciate your time.
Speaker 2:Thank you, love. This was so beautiful and just filled my heart and just made me so joyous to share and to be able to have this experience with you. Thank you so much and again, thank you for being part of my beautiful journey, because it would have not been the same without you.
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