How to Use Your Desires to Create Your Vision

What if your unfulfilled desires could be the key to your inner stability and highest potential? Discover the transformative power of embracing your dreams and breaking free from the mental chatter of unworthiness in this latest episode. 

We dive deep into the common patterns of suppressing desires and how this practice distances you from intuition and synchronicities that guide you to the fullest expression of the life you're meant to live. 

Whether you're stuck in comfort zones that stifle growth or curious about the energetics behind desires, this discussion will reignite your ability to embody your inner radiance and magnetism.

Join me as we unlock the magic of feminine energy and its harmonious interplay with masculine energy. By harnessing the excitement and connection sparked by our desires, we activate our feminine side to achieve a successful energetic presence in our field. Through personal stories and insightful commentary, I highlight the pitfalls of over-structuring life and the benefits of trusting the energetic flow to find true harmony and fulfillment. Embracing the limitless nature of feminine energy without rationalizing or confining it is crucial for personal growth and success.

Learn to discern between shadow and soul desires, reclaim your inner landscape, and consciously face doubts, fears, and wounds for the sake of living your best life. By integrating these principles, you'll rediscover your worthiness, trust your intuition, and attract the life you are meant to live. Join us and start saying yes to more expansive, life-affirming experiences.

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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:03

Welcome to the opportunity. I'm your host, hila, and I'll be leading you through the difficult conversations that we need to have in order to feel embodied, empowered and expressed as no one other than ourselves, than ourselves. This podcast is an invitation to rise up to your soul's knowing that everything on your path is, in fact, an opportunity to embody more of yourself, to refine your frequency and to align with the vision that you've been gifted. Remember, you're not here to be anyone other than yourself, and the only way to plug into the magic that awaits you on your path is to plug into who you authentically came here to be Ready for more. Let's get into it, for more, let's get into it. This is the August relaunch. I am so excited to be back. It feels so good. Oh, my goodness. We finally settled into the new house here in Belgium and I feel like I can finally have our weekly podcasts back on track.

Speaker 1 1:25

We cannot underestimate the importance of stability, right Specifically for women. Internal stability, I know. For men or humans that are in their masculine, the external stability is so, so important, but women or humans that are in their feminine, the internal stability is so, so important. So, now that we have created a whole new level of internal stability on this side of the realm. Our podcasts should come back to their weekly launches, should come back to their weekly launches, and I'm very excited about that because there's a lot that I want to get into with you.

Speaker 1 2:12

And today we're going to talk about playing into desires to create your vision. I know that desires are something that a lot of women suppress because of worthiness, and worthiness can really play out in a number of ways. Right, it can play out in just saying, no, you don't deserve that, right, internally hearing that voice. No, you don't deserve that. No, it's not going to work out for you. No, you're not going to be able to sustain it. Or it can come along different types of internal whispers like, oh, let's just put that back on the back burner. You know, let's just, let's just hold off on that, let's do what's more important now, and that's more like mental chatter. That's more logic, rationalization, and we all know that a woman's body does not speak like that. And when we do that, when we play into that, it's okay to hear that.

Speaker 1 3:19

But if you choose that, you are suppressing your intuition. That you are suppressing your intuition, you are suppressing the inner voice that literally guides you towards your vision, and all the incredible synchronistic events that thread together your highest timeline like the most exciting life you can live on this plane and every year that we get comfortable, being in comfort and saying no to all the most expansive wonderful experiences that lead us to feel that aliveness that we crave as women, that literally ignite and awaken our radiance and our magnetism and our voices, our expression, the medicine that we're here to share with the collective. Every time we get comfortable and say no to that or avoid that, we create more distance, we create more disconnect and we create more disorientation in our field. So if you've been finding yourself playing into this or maybe you're not necessarily playing into this now, but you know that there's a pattern there that you can slip into this, right, maybe when you're having a difficult time or you're experiencing a lull in your life or in your business then this podcast episode is absolutely going to help you. This is also going to help you if you want to understand the energetics behind desires. Right, so it's for both, for both people, for both sides, okay, so let's get into it.

Speaker 1 5:09

So here's the thing Desires point to the people, places and experiences that awaken our feminine energy and I work with a lot of women who others may deem as too much in their masculine energy. So I don't want you to get like twisted with this topic. If I say feminine energy, don't do not let that throw you off. Like, do not let that confuse you, it doesn't matter. You know whatever the conditioned self that has been conditioned by the industry, by these feminine and masculine words, is saying to you internally like don't get thrown off by that, right. In fact, let's actually just define that really quickly so that we can settle into a place where our bodies open up to receive the message that's about to come through.

Speaker 1 6:08

So here's the thing Feminine energy is simply the energetics of human beings. Let's leave it at that. It's the energetic part, okay. And that can be anything, um, anything within your internal realm, within your internal landscape. Energy, emotional, all that stuff Masculine is simply what we do here in the external right. So it's the action, the tangible pieces. So we need both of them, like we need both, right. So our masculine side is devoted to our feminine side by showing up and taking the visions of our feminine side and making it tangible, okay. So we need both, it doesn't? It does not matter what part of the spectrum you swing, you know onto the most, it's just energetics. Feminine energy is just the energetics of us human beings. So let's dissect that a little bit right.

Speaker 1 7:23

Desires point to the people, places and experiences that awaken our feminine energy. Excitement, that desire, that aliveness bubbling through, like that expression of a person that is awake to life and feels connected and turned on by life. That is a good thing. That is a good thing. And how does that awaken our feminine energy Like? How does that awaken our life force energy? How does that awaken the magic side of our embodiments, our auric field, our magnetism, our radiance? How does that allow us to win at our energetic game?

Speaker 1 8:17

Because when we say yes to that, we're saying no to other things. We're saying no to logic and rationalization, we're saying no to the conditioned unworthiness, we're saying no to all the stories that are trying to make sense of it all and we're saying yes to magic. We're saying yes to energy. We're saying yes. I do know that I'm co-creating with the universe, right? So I show up for my yeses, for my aligned yeses, and the universe supports me and life supports me and the unfolding matches that it matches it. I don't need to be scared, I don't need to feel alone. Life loves me, life is worthy of me. And think about that feminine energy when it feels held and supported and loved and celebrated and embraced, it unravels, it blossoms, it expands, but it's not going to make sense. So I think where a lot of people interrupt their energetic momentum is when they're trying to make sense of it all.

Speaker 1 9:30

I've done this. Oh, my God, have I done this? You know, the first time I was making multiple five figure months, I started asking the wrong question. I started asking what do I have to do to keep this? What do I have to do to grow this, you know? And I started adding all of these uh structures and strategies that was trying to box up this feminine energy and it literally led my business to collapse, literally. That was the worst thing I could have done. And then, when things didn't work out, I literally thought that, oh, I knew it. You know the self-fulfilling prophecy. I knew it. I knew this wasn't going to work for me. I knew I wasn't going to be able to hold that much money. I knew I wasn't going to be able to expand it I.

Speaker 1 10:19

But when you play into your feminine energy. Okay, to the magical side of life. Play into your feminine energy. Okay, to the magical side of life, into the energetics. When you allow yourself to devote more energy into the energetic game, what happens is beyond your comprehension and you have to accept that. You cannot freak out and try to box that magic in. You cannot freak out and try to box your inner feminine in because she is limitless. She plays in the realm of possibilities. She does not play with limitation. The moment you try to control her or limit her or rationalize her, she collapses and then your whole field collapses. So now let's dive into the difference between healthy feminine energy and wounded feminine energy.

Speaker 1 11:18

It's so important to create discernment around this, because not all desires are going to lead you to this right, and I want you to have that discernment so that your desires can lead you to the magical, irrational, illogical expansion that I know that your soul is craving. So here's the thing Our desires are scattered, unintentional, when we're not connected to a vision. So I just want to go straight to the source. If you're not connected to a vision, if your body is not holding a vision, then you may be playing into what I call shadow desires, and shadow desires lead you to play into karmic lessons that you haven't yet integrated. And I have done this and I know so many women that have done this, that are moving through experiences that they know is not for their highest good, they know is not a part of their vision. They know that it's not going to take them anywhere and in fact, they actually can feel that it's leading them further and further and further from the aligned and expansive life that they actually want. But they still play into it because they know that there's a soul lesson that they need to learn and they're intentionally navigating that Like they actually know that Right. So I wouldn't necessarily say that shadow desires are a bad thing. Hopefully they're safe, right. So if you are in navigating something that, where you're not safe, obviously get out right away.

Speaker 1 13:01

But the whole point of playing into shadow desires is that at some point you won't do that anymore. At some point you'll integrate worthiness, you'll integrate a new standard for yourself and at some point you're going to realize that that standard that you integrated is just a foundation. It's the basic necessity. It's the bare necessity. It's not a high standard to repel people. It is literally your worthiness, your self-love, your worthiness, your self-love, and you don't need to move through lessons that lead you to question your self-worth or lead you to question your potential or your capacity, or the love that you're meant to receive, or the life that you're meant to live. That you're meant to receive or the life that you're meant to live At some point on your journey.

Speaker 1 14:08

You should not be playing into shadow desires any longer, and here's the way to discern it Shadow desires will always, always, always, always, disorient, create disorientation, create disconnect and create distance from yourself and your vision. You're not going to want to, you're not going to have the energy to show up for yourself and your vision, because shadow desires are all consuming. It's like entering a big fog and your body wants it, but it's not serving your highest good. And when I say your body wants it not serving your highest good, and when I say your body wants it, what's actually happening? There is that shadow is, you know, taking up so much space within your body, and it's trying to get a need met, a need that you're supposed to meet, but you're getting distracted right by seeking these needs, seeking ways to have this need met externally through people or experiences, and I see this a lot within relationships, so primarily within relationships, getting lost in the incorrect relationships and getting lost by what's going on, getting thrown off, getting swayed and then questioning everything, questioning who you are, what you're doing, the way that you're doing it.

Speaker 1 15:45

You know, questioning yourself, questioning your identity. It's a horrible experience to have, but you know, I think we all have them. We all have them because on this journey that is life, we all have shadows, number one that we need to integrate, and we all have lessons that we need to learn, and that's okay. But at some point on your journey you should not be playing into this anymore, because if you are moving through your internal devotional self-love work on a daily, because you are the temple and you should be in there in that temple daily, loving up on yourself, nourishing, nurturing, giving all of your parts within your inner landscape what it needs so that your internal ecosystem can flourish and become abundant and overpour into the outside, into your external field. This is also, again, feminine energy, magic, the energetic game, right. So when you're doing that, you're not trying to get your internal needs met externally, and this is, you know.

Speaker 1 16:56

I don't want to steer off topic too much, but this is where everything in your internal excuse me, everything in your external reality becomes a byproduct of your internal reality because you're moving through your devotional self-love work on a daily. You are coming to that temple on a daily basis, getting your needs met and nourishing and nurturing and connecting and embodying, and that energy is so strong that it starts to come out into the external field and then it attracts. And also that energy coming out into your external field also looks like your voice, speaking, sharing, expressing, creating, building, connecting, communicating, radiating, magnetizing, vibrating, right, and so coming back to the vision part, when you don't have a vision, you're just kind of like floating through life, and it doesn't have to be like this masculine, structured vision. Also, I'm going to say that if your vision looks like that, it's probably coming from your mind. It's probably coming from a conditioned vision, something that you heard or read. You know where your vision should look like this, where this is what success looks like, where this is what whatever looks like.

Navigating Soul and Shadow Desires

Speaker 1 18:26

Your vision needs to come from your body and you need to learn how to receive your vision from your body. Again, this is why, mastering your ability to navigate your inner landscape, you know replacing this term inner work with daily, devotional self-love every morning, water your internal ecosystem, fall in love with doing that and everything will pour out of you. For women, embodying your vision, receiving your vision from your body, is going to make it a hell of a lot easier for your body to be on board. If you feel like it's really hard for your body to be on board with your vision, I'm going to assume that you're creating your vision from your mind, right? And if you need help with that, like, please reach out to me, send me a DM, send me an email. You know, this is what I do with my women in wildfire. And here's the thing Again when your vision is in your body, then you can consciously choose to rise to the occasion.

Speaker 1 19:37

And what does that look like? It looks like facing your doubts, fears, wounds consciously so that you can reach your vision, so that you can stay on track, so that you can remain aligned, because your body is only going to give you a vision that your body wants to align with, that your body wants to show up for. That will make your body come alive, that will make your body feel fulfilled. This is why body-based vision is priority here in this work, right? So, unlike the shadow desires, soul desires.

Speaker 1 20:14

When you are embodying your vision, then you have soul desires that come in and what they do totally opposite of shadow desires is that they free your energy and feed your momentum. They're delicious, they literally free the magic in your voice and expression by getting you out of your head and into your body. And this is where you begin to build trust with the field, with source, with the universe. Soul desires are co-creating. Shadow desires are usually isolating, okay, so we have to get that to click for us. And remember what I said in the beginning desires and now let's reframe that Soul desires, not shadow desires, but soul desires point to the people, places and experiences that awaken our feminine energy right. That lead us to master that energetic game, that lead us into the playing field of that energetic game, that lead us to be radiant and magnetic and receptive to all the possibilities and opportunities that are already in the field around us.

Speaker 1 21:34

Because you let go of logic and trust that the energy that makes you come alive is the energy that you deserve. And this comes back to worthiness Remember I mentioned worthiness in the beginning, right, you need to trust that the energy that makes you come alive is the energy that you deserve, that the energy that makes you come alive is truth. It's not a lie. It's not trying to lead you into a trap. It's leading you towards the vision that your body is showing you, that your body is sharing with you. You need to trust your worthiness. This is where the internal devotional piece is so important, because if you don't know what's going on in here, you're going to begin to like believe the lies, believe the stories. You're going to get entangled in that rational process that keeps you from your magic, that keeps you from your internal feminine intelligence, that dissociates you from your body. We don't want that. Worthiness is like the missing link here. Now, as I mentioned before, inner landscape work right. Feeding your devotional self-love daily builds this inner worth.

Speaker 1 23:03

Inner worth or worthiness is something that I've had to work on for such a long time. I mean, I used to have panic attacks at the thought of sharing my voice, of speaking, of being in social settings, of sharing my medicine, of sharing you know my work. Oh my God, that was like the biggest hurdle I've ever had to move through. I had panic attacks at making the decisions that my desires and visions were leading me towards, because I thought that if I jumped, I would fall, I would die. I didn't trust that life wanted me to succeed. I didn't trust that my body was telling me the truth. I didn't trust that my intuition, you know, wasn't some made up concept in my head and that I wasn't going crazy. I didn't trust that. What I trusted is that no, that life isn't made for me. No, I can only get so far. This is good. This is good enough. You know, if I do something, I'm going to fail. If I go further, I'm going to fall. If I do something, I'm going to fail. If I go further, I'm going to fall. And these were all things that I heard as a child. That's the truth.

Speaker 1 24:33

Our internal landscape, unfortunately, was not created by us. It was built up by our caregivers, and this is not something that I'm saying so that you can be upset with them, angry at them, hold a grudge against them. No, that's only going to like harm. You. Don't do that. What we need to do as women is now we need to reclaim our internal landscape by learning how to navigate it. Unfortunately, as children, we did not know how to navigate it. We entrusted our internal landscape to our caregivers.

Speaker 1 24:59

Now, as adult women, we need to reclaim that, reclaim our inner landscape, reclaim our sacred responsibility to nurture and sustain and expand that inner, widely wildly diverse ecosystem and learn about it and receive it and work with it. Because when you water it enough, when it begins to heal and then reach that shift where it's just being nurtured and nourished by you and it's flourishing, it's going to be your oracle, like your inner landscape as a woman is meant to be your oracle. It's meant to be your sage, your wisdom keeper that leads you on this heroine's journey towards your vision, that leads you towards the most magical abundant life. But you need to reclaim your relationship with it. It will not do that for you. It will only send you symptoms and signals telling you like, hey, it's time to come in, I'm pulling you in right, I'm leading you through a dip, I'm pulling you into the void, I'm pulling you through the unknown, I'm right. And then, when we don't listen to that, then it's like depression, anxiety, isolation. But all of these are just messages signaling you, as a woman, to come in, to come in and receive and give, and receive and give internally so that we can enter this magical energetic game, this energy field that we get to play in.

Speaker 1 26:55

So, as we come to an end here, I want to move through a little recap with you. I want to remind you that playing into your desires creates your vision. But you have to have discernment. What is a soul desire and what is a shadow desire? And at some point you need to make that shift where you are no longer playing into shadow desires, where you are reclaiming your inner landscape, your relationship with your inner landscape, and you are integrating your shadows by getting those needs met yourself, by creating a line of communication between you and the shadow and understanding that shadow, understanding what's behind the shadow and integrating what it needs, so that you are no longer playing into these disempowering, dissociative, disconnecting shadow desires. Right, so that you can start to play a new game, so that you can start to play into your soul desires. And your soul desires point you to the people, places and experiences that awaken your feminine energy. And that's the aliveness, that's the radiance, that's the magnetism. That is your divine right as a woman. It lives within you. We just need to awaken it. Your divine right as a woman. It lives within you. We just need to awaken it.

Speaker 1 28:15

Again, it does not matter if you lean more towards the masculine or the feminine, I don't give a shit about that. Like you are a unique, differentiated, individuated woman. I don't want you to be like everyone else. I hope you're absolutely radically different from everyone else, right, be weirder, be different, do not try to be like anyone else. And and you still have that magic inside of your body, right?

Speaker 1 28:43

And we cannot negate that. We cannot put that on the back burner because it's just going to create difficulty and resistance in our lives and in reality, that's where disease comes from for us. That is where scarcity comes from, survival comes from. That's also where these shadow desires come from, these karmic lessons, disempowerment, like all the things that we don't need in our field, and aging Like this is where we age dramatically. Okay, we age dramatically because we are trying to act from a place that suppresses that feminine energy, that suppresses everything that comes with that feminine energy the spontaneity, the desires, the aliveness, the illogical way of living, right? So we really need to get back into that so that we can free ourselves from whatever way of living that does not serve us, from things and people and and standards that don't serve us.

Speaker 1 29:57

So I want to leave you with this question Are your desires leading you to become full of devotion to yourself, your life and your vision, or is it disorienting, disconnecting and distancing you from it all? Okay, this is like jot this down in your journal somewhere. This is a great question to ask when you are feeling confused between is this a shadow desire or is this a, um, soul desire? Excuse me, my MG brain is going a mile, a million miles an hour with lots of things that it wants to share. So, and when you ask this question, get out of your head, do not try to rationalize what it's, what is going on.

Speaker 1 30:48

A shadow desire does not to be. It doesn't need to be something so toxic that it's like totally, you know, destroying you. It doesn't need to be like that. It can be something really subtle. That's happening because, also remembering that life and healing and this experience is an upward spiral. So all that is happening is we're experiencing similar lessons from higher perspectives if we are choosing to evolve and expand. That's all that's happening. So, as we get higher on that spiral, these, you know, karmic lessons or shadow desires aren't going to feel so life-threatening as they did when we were lower down on the spiral, right, so it's very easy to be like, oh no, you're fine, nothing's happening. No, it's just because of this. Don't play into that. Do not play into that. We need to break that pattern because you are worthy.

Speaker 1 31:42

Remember worthiness, worthiness. We need to integrate that worthiness through the inner self-love, devotional work daily. And another thing is that this discernment around what is a soul desire and what is a shadow desire, it's going to lead you to feel way more confident about your choices and it's going to lead you to go all in all in on your choices. And that's where you're going to experience the most magic, the most energy, the most spontaneous synchronicities that do not make sense to the brain. And we want that. We do want that. We don't want to. We don't want to live in a box, right, we want that. We want the all in type of life for ourselves, because if it doesn't satisfy us and doesn't create the energetic momentum to bring the imaginable into tangible form, then that's a little signal that we're half in and we want to be all in. So remember this. Okay, you are worthy of getting into the best case scenarios in life that make no sense to your rational or logical brain. You are worthy of that. You are worthy.

Speaker 1 33:05

That was our episode for today on the Opportunity. Thank you so much for tuning in and deciding to engage in these important conversations that refine and up-level our standard of existence. I deeply appreciate your presence, your time, your connection. If you're loving this podcast just as much as I love creating them, I would love to receive a review or rating from you. Your words have just as much impact as this episode had. If you're interested in my offers and mentorship opportunities, click on the link below to access my website. If you're ready to fly high in the way you were designed to, I'm ready to lead you to that standard of existence. I love you, love yourself, love your life. Until next time.