The Opportunity
The Opportunity is a podcast for women who are ready to look at what they need to see to feel consistently embodied, empowered, and expressed as no one other than themselves. When we begin embracing, accepting, and loving ourselves powerfully enough to stop avoiding all the energy leaks that keep us from standing in integrity with our radical self-responsibility, we re-open that line of communication with source/the universe and become receptive to the vision that pulls our heart forward.
Every experience is an opportunity to embody more of yourself, trust yourself and your life, and open up more of your heart to be more receptive. Remember this, your unique frequency is the only frequency you can create your reality from.
Haila Macedo is an Embodiment and Human Design mentor for women that desire to embody themselves powerfully, refine their expression, and live in alignment with their authority and life. She's a 6/2 Manifesting Generator with the LAX of Revolution 2. A Leo sun, Gemini moon, and Virgo rising with her north node in Aries, chiron in Gemini, and a stellium in the 12th house. These conversations are going deep into energetic expression.
*Human Design is a system that helps you understand how you function so that you can decrease resistance and increase your quality of life, experience your potential, and be more you.
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The Opportunity
Navigating Love and Life Across Continents: The Dance of Partnership and Personal Growth
Embarking on a leap of faith, I followed my sacral nudge from the vibrant shores of Brazil to the charming canals of the Netherlands, all for love. This episode unfolds the tale of how honoring my inner guidance not only bridged continents but also paved the path to personal fulfillment and an enriched partnership. My transition across the globe, from the structured life in the Netherlands to the vibrant chaos of India, and finally to the serene vistas of Cape Town, has been nothing short of an odyssey—one that has challenged and deepened my relationship, tested my individuality, and reaffirmed my trust in the universe's grand design.
There is a delicate dance in maintaining one's essence within the embrace of a partnership, and this narrative is a testament to that intricate balance. Join me as I share the intimate details of our journey—the trials and triumphs, the moments of fear, and the leaps of faith. This is a story of mutual growth, where my partner and I learned the art of nurturing our bond through life's unpredictable cadences. It's about embracing change with open arms and allowing the universe to steer the ship, even when the destination isn't clear.
With a vision that sparked an unexpected detour back to European lands, our life's blueprint underwent a complete overhaul. I invite you to listen to the chronicles of our move, the emotional spectrum of bidding farewell to Cape Town, and the thrill of embarking on new adventures. The profound insights gathered along the way have shaped our shared aspirations and the unique homes we dream of creating across Europe. Every twist in our tale reinforces the remarkable potential unleashed when two Manifesting Generators align with their authentic selves, trust their inner guidance, and co-create with the cosmos.
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Welcome to the Opportunity. I'm your host, hilah, and I'll be leading you through the difficult conversations that we need to have in order to feel embodied, empowered and expressed as no one other than ourselves. This podcast is an invitation to rise up to your soul's knowing that everything on your path is an opportunity to embody more of yourself, to refine your frequency and to align with the vision that you have been gifted. Remember you're not here to be anyone other than yourself, and the universe cannot connect with you if you ain't embodying yourself. Ready for more, let's get into it. Oh, my goodness, it has been a while, and while this line, too, can go on believing that you know, not now or maybe later, you know, I just need to spend a little bit more time with myself. The truth is, I know that if I don't start sharing everything that I've collected in these past couple of weeks and months, and even this past year, that this backlog of awareness and information is just going to leave me feeling stuck and stagnant. And, like I always say, the next step is always in front of us, and when we don't follow it, we don't get the next step right, because this next step that we're meant to take is going to move us in this reality, move us in this plane, and it's only there that we get to see what we need to see and receive our next step. So I'm not going to prolong this any further. There are a couple of things that I want to share, which may trickle into a couple of podcast episodes and, for some probably very special reason, I really want to record it in the home that I'm currently in and I have only about a week left here. So just to explain a little bit about what's going on, and this little bit may be a lot. But last year no, actually rewind the year before that, no, sorry, this Manny Jen is getting a little confused with her own timeline because everything happened so fast in my world Last year.
Speaker 1:Actually in January, I was literally sitting in Belo Horizonte in Brazil, in Minas Gerais, which is where my family lives, in my grandmother's house, and I could sense the panic that set in when I finally accepted the fact that I was not following my sacral nudge to go be with my partner. Now, at that point I think we were together for a little over a year and we were doing the whole long distance thing and we were pretty sure of each other. We were pretty sure that this thing was going to be. This was our relationship, this was the relationship that we were calling in, and he was working for an NGO in the Netherlands and I was working for myself. So I've been working for myself since 2018. And with that, I was the one who had the opportunity to go be with him, right, like he didn't have that opportunity to just pick up and leave, but I did. So I realized that that was my responsibility, that if we were doing this long distance thing, that was actually on me, it was my decision at the moment, and so I literally called him and said I'm done, I'm going to buy a plane ticket and I'm going to go to the Netherlands so we can see if this works out. You know, through this, next step of which would be living together, and that's where the story unfolds, oh, my goodness. So I bought a ticket super last minute for, like you know, to fly two days later from Brazil to the Netherlands, and when I got there, like everything worked out right, it was just. It's just really amazing when you follow your strategy and authority and it doesn't make sense to the mind, but everything works out and it's so natural, like all the resources, comes to you.
Speaker 1:Those two months that I was in the Netherlands were my highest months last year and that was also, if I would say, like my most aligned decision, where every decision that I made in those two months were totally mine and I had no space in between sacral, you know, response and action. They were like my highest months and I felt like I was thriving, like obviously I hate the winter, but you know we can't, we can't have it all, maybe at some point it's. I was thriving, like I actually loved being there and the funny thing is that I didn't think that I was going to love being in the Netherlands, which is why I never even had visited before. I visited once when I went to meet his family the year prior and when we were going to meet there to then go to Sicily for my birthday and all that good stuff. It's. I never even considered visiting the Netherlands, like I probably maybe would have not gone if it worried for him. But I thrived, like I loved it there. Everything just felt like it clicked, like that safety, stability, structure, like all the things that allowed me to thrive, like that really delicious, satisfying foundation. You know, to just blast off from, was right there and it was just working out. It was working out for us and where he was living at that time it was a very, very, very, very, very small space. So we were even, like you know, questioning like is this really going to work out? Because this is a very small space and this is the first time we're spending all this time together Like how is this going to pan out? And, incredibly enough, like it worked out incredibly well.
Speaker 1:And the next step after that was to go to India, because he had his job, was transitioning him there. So beginning of January I went to the Netherlands, I stayed until April. Then we went together to India. That was not my choice. So this is where I want to go into the nuances of following your authority, because everyone thinks it's so easy, it's so simple and it really isn't. Because every time we feel like we're lacking clarity, we feel disconnected, like something's off, we feel stagnant. You know it usually comes down to the fact that we're not fully understanding if we're following our strategy and authority or not. You know it always comes down to strategy and authority. So I want to go into that here. I did not choose to go to India. I chose to be with my partner and I knew that if I were to be with my partner, I would have to follow him into this experience.
Speaker 1:Now I have the channel of discovery. Oh my goodness, he has the channel of struggle. That's not a sacral channel, it's not a generator channel, but going into my channel right, my channel of discovery, that's where I respond from. So, if you are a sacral authority, the channels that you have coming out of your sacral, I only have one. But the channels that you have are going to be the response experiences that you're going to move through. So the channel of discovery what that is is it catapults you into these experiences that you move all the way through and you collect, whatever it is like, the information, the alert, the lessons, the wisdom, and then, once you're done with that experience, you share it with the collective right. So it's a collective, it's a part of the collective circuitry.
Speaker 1:Now I knew that I was getting myself into an experience that in the end, wasn't going to work out. Did I have like some sort of like a little bit of hope that I was wrong? Yeah, I am totally open-minded because I have my open-head centers. So I remain open into the fact that I can be wrong. But did I feel my sacral that I was going to be wrong? No, because I had a no response to India, but I had a yes response to being with him.
Speaker 1:So I went in and, being in India, we were there from April until June. So what is that? Wow, like three months. Not even Do I know how to count. I hope so. If I'm wrong, please don't let me know. But yeah, so it felt like a lifetime. Let me tell you, it literally felt like a lifetime. But the first month was great. It was great, it was fun because it was new and it was stimulating and you know, we had to navigate some things. What we got through it.
Speaker 1:As the second month came around, things started to go wrong. Right, little things here and there in the Airbnb that we were staying with, the person that you know we were renting from was a little off. The energy fell off. Health wise, like in all areas physical, mental, emotional all that stuff started to like go down, it started to dip, and I already knew it was happening, because I knew that India wasn't for me, but my defined heart wanted to see how far I could go with this because I was committed to standing by my partner. I wanted to create a life together. I was over the long distance thing, but I also knew that there was a lot of conditioning that he was moving through Right.
Speaker 1:His deconditioning journey started, you know, very slowly, I guess, when he started traveling Before his 20s, but it really fucking accelerated when he met me obviously. So, yeah, so he was still he's still in the beginning of his deconditioning journey. You know he doesn't really have anything to like fall back on in regards to receiving that guidance or that help. So what ended up happening is that we had to have a lot of confrontational conversations. So, as you can imagine, you know, that really went into our undefined solar plexus, like we really had to work with that and find out how to remain grounded and how to remain connected while moving through all of this how to have these healthy conversations while in opposition, how to ground into an anchor, into like a respectful type of love while doubting our journey together.
Speaker 1:It was really hard, while wanting different things, and so India really tested us, but through all of those really difficult conversations that we had, we became so much closer. We were never that close before. It's almost like 10 years went by in two months. That's the depth of intimacy that we were able to create there, of trust, of union, of friendship, even Like we really grounded into such a respectful partnership. We learned how to respect each other as individuals, which in relationships it's so hard.
Speaker 1:Because what I've been through in past relationships, and what I know others go through as well, is that there's this weird belief that we have that when we go into relationships, we need to do what our partner wants us to do, or we need to do what our partner wants to do, and then they need to do the same, and that couldn't be further from the truth. That is such an unhealthy homogenized definition of a relationship or explanation of a relationship. Relationships are about two completely separate individuals coming together in partnership to work towards a common goal, a common vision. But that doesn't mean that my own personal vision that I have for myself goes away, or that it needs to be his, or that he needs to align with it, and that goes the same for him. So we learned a lot about that there, and we also learned a lot about how we were playing into fears and trying to create this false sense of safety and stability that, for example, for him, would come from his job and for me, would go from trusting him to make the decisions for a relationship instead of trusting myself.
Speaker 1:Now, as someone who has literally lived through their sacral and traveled through their sacral solo throughout the world, for me to say that it may sound weird, but the dynamic of being alone, as a six to single definition, is completely different than being with someone else, especially all the time. And this is what I've been learning right how respecting how you function, if you truly, if we truly respect how we function, how our relationships look are going to be so unique because how you look and how you act and how you function is so unique. So that also means that relationships cannot look the same. We cannot abide by these relational rules because they literally just lead our individuality to crumble. And when we don't have that individuality, that individuation, the differentiation process, we don't respect how we function, so we can't thrive in a relationship and the relationship goes sour. And this is what we've been learning along this journey this past year and it's been remarkable how fast we've grown and how fast we've been able to adapt to this new way of being and relating and coexisting and co-creating.
Speaker 1:Now in the Netherlands we didn't have that wild intimacy that we had in India, right Like that. We were really shoved into. We had no choice. It was like either break up or get real close real fast, by really understanding each other and really listening and really being present and really respecting each person as an individual and I mean man. Isn't that why we break up? Most of the time it's because someone didn't want to do what we wanted them to do where they didn't want to be the way that we wanted them to be.
Speaker 1:You know, and I think about, like, what a shame it is when you know not every relationship is correct. Obviously we know in through our authority if a relationship is correct or not like it's. It's there. We can't really trick ourselves. We can try, but we can't trick ourselves. But what a shame it is when two people are correct for each other but they just don't understand this piece that there is no other way for a relationship to thrive than for two individuals to continue respecting and empowering each other, to continue being individuals and modifying everything that needs to be modified in this relationship dynamic in order for it to work, instead of trying to fit in a box and when it doesn't fit in that relationship box that society has created for them, they need to break up. What a shame. That is, how sad.
Speaker 1:So for us, you know, we were having like this incredibly adventurous love affair where we would visit each other in different countries, and it was so, you know, like it was such an adventurous, passionate story, but that wasn't realistic, like at some point for me or and him, we would have to come together, and so once we came together, I knew, like that the real experiences were going to come up for us to navigate and I knew that the way that we navigated was so important and I can't tell you how grateful I am for human design. Like I can't begin to even explain my gratitude for having human design so that I can understand how to respect other individuals. I think the universe for having led me towards this, and not only human design, but source material. Very specific, because it goes on, it goes deep into the nuances of each person's mechanics, of each person's design, right, and it doesn't sugarcoat it, it doesn't make it like this heavenly magical experience where everything goes right. It goes on into the nuances and it talks about real life human experiences that we are going to have that we can't run away from, and it talks about the reality of how that is how that pans out. So it's super helpful, a whole lot of love.
Speaker 1:And In the Netherlands it was more about like, even though we were together for a little over a year and we had all these experiences and we've had, you know, difficult conversations, it was different because now I was in his space this wasn't even our space yet, right, this was still his space and there was like a lot of like still getting to know each other. It almost felt like it was a brand new relationship, even though we were together for over a year, because this was a whole new other experience. So there was still like a lot of you know, like honeymoon phase of being together and we also had a lot of time separate, because he had to go into the office for most of the day and you know I was alone then and I was working and I was doing my own thing, so we still had that. Now in India, things got real, real fast, because we started to see that very important problems were coming up and we also started to see that the solutions to these problems were bringing up a lot of conflict and a lot of truths that were being avoided and a lot of conditioning and a lot of fears, right. So we had to learn how to navigate that together. And this is where, like, a lot of patterns and traumas come up and things that you don't want your partner to see, that you try to keep it away for as long as possible, but then inevitably they come up. And so the way that we were able to learn how to hold each other in those spaces and communicate it and bring in a lot of forgiveness and patience and willpower we both have to find egos, knowing that we were in it, like we were in this relationship and we were going to figure this out together. You know we were going to have the hard conversations, we were going to find a solution and then finally finding that solution, noticing that we had the same sacred response for this very important decision, which was to leave India, and in leaving India, he actually needed to quit this job. That was very important to him, you know, but it was also correct for him to quit. It was something that he wanted to do, and this was also a very important piece of this experience where we or at least I, because I was more aware of what my decision is separate from his, but it was very important for me to make sure that his decision was his, separate from mine. So we had a lot of those conversations because we needed to move forward as two individuals. Right Again, that had a common goal, and so we came to Cape Town.
Speaker 1:Now, cape Town was a whole other experience. We were very excited to be here. We were super committed to finding a way to get our residency here, to build here, and we wanted to have children here and we just wanted to like plant roots here. We had this whole vision for what we were going to do. We wanted to buy land and we wanted to have a farm and a vineyard and we were so certain that it was going to happen. And, funny enough, like in the beginning, everything happened correctly. Like you know, the moment I made that decision, my income started to rise. The moment he planted his feet here in Cape Town, he found the most perfect job like we couldn't have found a more perfect job for him and we found the perfect place right next to his job. Like everything happened within the first week of him coming here and my income increased within the moment I bought my ticket to come here.
Speaker 1:So it's like this comes back to what I said right, make the decision that's in front of you now, because this fluctuation that we all experience, which is super normal, nobody has this sort of like steady, consistent results, unless you are in a very controlled life where you're probably working for someone and even that right, even that can end at any moment. But it's like this very controlled life experience which I'm not really sure how much potential can be experienced through a controlled life experience. Potential, you know, comes from energy and it needs to have the opportunity to expand and to fluctuate and to be expressed and not suppressed. So a controlled life won't actually allow us to live through this experience, through a potential. And coming back to the fact that life fluctuates, right and notice how it fluctuates based on you following your authority and your ability to consistently follow your strategy and authority and how, what happens when you follow your strategy and authority, like pay attention, and what happens when you don't? What happens when you stall on that decision? You know, I've noticed this forever my life expands when I follow it. When I stall, it just contracts, you know, and it's not to say that we always need to be an expansion, because it's in the contractions that we learn our lessons and that we get to refine how we are being in this world. So that's completely natural to have and it's totally necessary. But we do need to have the awareness of what happens when we follow our authority so that we can begin to really trust it more. We can't trust following our authority if we're not observing or being aware of what happens when we follow our authority. We need to collect that evidence. It's just in our being to desire that evidence right Now.
Speaker 1:Like I mentioned, everything was going great here in Cape Town, like everything was going well for us and we even adopted a dog, harley, we adopted a rescue and we just had the perfect plan. Right, we had the perfect plan. But there's something that I always say, like I would rather move forward with the plan that the universe has for me rather than my plan. Always because I know that the plan that my mind can conceive is very limiting. It's based on what I know now, but the plan that the universe is leading me towards through my authority is bigger than I can comprehend. It's beyond what I'm able to imagine. Our authority works with the energy field. It does not work with rationality or history or anything like that. It works with the energy field, so it knows what we do not know, and so when we trust our authority, we're being led towards something that is beyond our comprehension, which is way better than what we believe we want. I always say I love what I'm planning out now, I love what I'm doing now, but I, a million times over, prefer to have what the universe wants for me.
Speaker 1:And as I kept repeating that towards myself and my partner, I started having visions of Europe and I thought well, that's not really possible, because if we're planning on being residents here and investing all this money here and doing all this stuff here we're even already talking about children Then how are we going to be going to Europe next year? That's impossible. But I was still trusting it. I still held it in place. I stopped saying it was impossible. I stopped trying to figure it out and stop trying to understand. What that vision meant was that I was going to Europe in the summertime Instead of thinking about that. When is that going to happen? Is it going to be a trip? Is it going to be my birthday? Is it going to be in the summertime? Is it going to be summer time? So expensive? How are we going to do that? I just dropped that and I started to receive it. I'm like, oh, that's interesting, I wonder what that is. And that went on.
Speaker 1:I think that started happening in September and in November, november 1st, my partner called me and he tells me that this job let him go. He was absolutely devastated, when I tell you, devastated, like internally collapsing the world was caving in on him. He had no idea what he was going to do, but the moment that I received that phone call from him, backtracking a bit, that day was a very interesting day for me because, while I wanted to work, something was telling me to know not to work and instead to be in a meditative state all day and to know that a big change was coming. Like this is literally the message that I received. I can even just feel this very calming presence that I felt. It felt very otherworldly that day and it was very specific. It just told me you're not going to do anything today, you're going to receive and something really big is going to about to happen. Something really big is about to happen and you're going to know exactly what to do. You're going to know exactly what to do and you're going to trust that decision and you're not going to linger. And I was like okay, and I could feel. It felt like the thing that was about to happen was right in front of me, like it was going to happen right then and there.
Speaker 1:And just a couple of hours later I received a phone call from my partner letting me know that he was coming back home because this job let him go. And, as he was, his voice was trembling on the phone. It's like all the energy of the universe came into my body and I knew exactly what we were going to do. So I just told him all right, I understand, let's talk about this when you get home. Just come home as soon as possible. So when he came home, I held him because he was really devastated, he was not okay and he needed space to process that with me. So I held that space for him and then I told him that we were going to go on this hike and it has just the most beautiful view. It's one of the hikes that we it's not like. I guess it's a hike for some people, but in Cape Town it's not really considered a hike, it's considered more like just a trail. It's the pipe trail and has, like this beautiful view of Cape Town. So I told him we're going to go there.
Speaker 1:So I packed everything up, I packed up his backpack and I called an Uber and we went and I told him you know, you can feel everything that you need to feel. Cry if you need to cry. Don't hold anything. You can share whatever it is that you need to share. I'm not going to try to solve your problem. I'm just going to listen to you and let's just move through this walk or hike intentionally and slowly and mindfully and just breathe and feel. You know, keep your heart open, feel what you need to feel. This happened for a reason and we need to know that. We need to have certainty around that and we cannot have certainty around the fact that this happened for a reason if we don't keep our hearts open or else we're never going to understand what's happening. So we need to keep our hearts open. So let's keep breathing and walking mindfully and you can share whatever it is that you need to share. You can cry if you need to cry. So we're moving through that process together and I knew exactly what point on the trail that we were going to stop so that I can tell him what we were going to do next.
Speaker 1:This was all, guys, in the span of hours, not even days, hours. I had not expected this, I had not expected this, I had not planned before this. You know, this was just pure guidance. Pure guidance. It was source, it was my authority, it was me surrendering, it was me being moved through this vessel. It was all of that, everything together.
Speaker 1:And so once we got to that spot, we stopped right there. I told him let's stop right here. I want to talk about what's going to happen next. So he said okay, and I could feel his fear of like you know, the thought of like well, I don't know what's going to happen next, like what are we supposed to tell her? Like what are we going to talk about? You know, like I have nothing to offer, like I could just feel those fears running through him and I just really remained grounded in my own knowing as his partner. And so we sat there and I told him we're going to move to Europe. We're moving to Europe, we're going to get everything ready to move to Europe. And so you for the next, you know, starting today, you take however many days you need to rest and process all of the shit that you just went through and finalize everything with this company so that you can exit properly, and then we're going to start planning our return to Europe.
Speaker 1:And you know, we sat there and we also talked about, like, visions that inspire us, that we still have. That, you know, we can take with us anywhere we want and we can still have the visions that we had here for Cape Town, for South Africa. I don't even think that we would be moving exactly to Cape Town if we'd come back. It's, you know, the vision that we had for South Africa. We can still have that, but in a different way. It's not that we don't have that anymore, it's just that the form is changing. And because we live in an energetic world and we understand that we're co-creating with the universe, we have to understand that form changes. Form cannot be controlled, energy cannot be controlled, and we have to understand that fact if we are to co-create the best life that we know we're here to have.
Speaker 1:So we started talking about all the visions that we have and how beneficial this you know release was for him, that this company released them, that that this detour happened, how beneficial this is going to be for us, everything that's going to change, all the good that's going to come from it, all the stability and the security that we need in order to thrive. How all of that is going to happen. How he's going to find an incredible job there that's going to appreciate him, unlike any other job that he's had, that's going to set him up for success, and all the reasons why I'm going to thrive there. And how we're going to thrive together and how we're going to, you know, go even further with this vision that we have. Instead of buying one land for us to live on Now, we're going to buy many pieces of land throughout Europe and we're going to build these incredible, you know, houses that are so unique and so worldly and so eccentric, and we're going to work with this and we're going to do that. And a million projects came to mind when we both decided what was correct for us individually and in that moment, are we had a common goal. We met in the middle, you know, and how we're also going to come back and at some point we're just going to buy land here, cash, and that we're still going to make this happen. But the awareness that we've gained through being here has shown us that this is not the best place to have the foundation that we need to build the vision and the family that we want to build. And as generators, we're both manifesting generators.
Speaker 1:I'm a six, two, he's a two, four. I'm single definition, he is, he's not. He is a split definition and I'll go into that, probably on an on another podcast episode, because that's a very important piece as well that we've learned together this past year. But we met our sacral, had the same response, you know, to the same journey, to the same direction, and that that's where we met in the middle. You know, there are things that of course, we're individuals, so that we want to do a little bit differently and we're going to accommodate two individuals in this next chapter within a partnership. And you know, because this episode I want to, I don't want to go overboard it's already 38 minutes. I'm watching the minutes go by now but I also want to talk about that, those relational modifications that we're going to make in this new year. It's going to be that episode is going to be really good. That's going to go really deep into the design aspect and really creating a unique innovative relationship partnership experience that works, where two individuals can thrive in partnership. I can't wait for that episode. But coming back to this one, that's my MG for you Coming back to this, we felt so much energy from that decision, from that conversation and that brought us so much satisfaction and that, for two MG's, is just such a signpost for correctness.
Speaker 1:You know, for other couples, depending on your type, your signature theme and all the keywords related to your signature theme are signposts for your correctness that you both are also navigating your relationship in the correct way. But with this we just felt an immense amount of energy for this new chapter, for everything that we decided upon, and so much satisfaction. You know we obviously grieved the vision of being here. We grieved our connection with this land and the hopes and desires that we had for it. There was a lot of grieving, a lot of acceptance that we needed to move through. But after two or three days of him moving through his own process, we came together and we decided that we were going to take our beautiful for baby girl Harley with us to the Netherlands, and so that was another decision that we needed to make, which was difficult but was correct for us and is correct.
Speaker 1:We're still receiving the evidence that that decision was correct for us, and we started the journey of looking for a new job for him, and that, too, was a very difficult experience. He was moving through a lot of fears that this wouldn't happen. You know, especially being in a completely other continent and looking for a job there. It's not the easiest thing, because he wasn't able to actually be there for physical interviews, and what we were aiming for was a job that he didn't necessarily have that expertise or experience in. He had. He matched criteria that supported those positions, but the position right, those positions that he was aiming for were positions that he didn't work as yet, so he didn't necessarily have that experience.
Speaker 1:Now, the reason why we did that was because I believe that the past jobs that he had were not jobs that were supporting him to reach his potential. They were jobs that were way below his potential, and so we wanted to make sure that, if we were going to move to a whole new continent again right, and to remind you, in 2023, we were in three different continents. So in January we were in Brazil and you know, after that, some of January, march through April, we were in Europe, then we went to India, then we came over to South Africa. So four different continents. So we were like, okay, we really want a base, we really want stability. So if we're going to make this move, we need to make sure that we're setting ourselves up for success, to live through our potential, and that we're not just going there to be comfortable, because that would be a place of comfort for us. Right, he's from there, I can just get my presidency with him, we can just chill and he can have a normal job and I can just make whatever I like.
Speaker 1:And we were just not having that because our vision is big and it is our common goal. So we really wanted to make sure that we were setting up ourselves for success there in a way, where we were going to be called to rise up through our potential, and we wanted to make sure that he was, if he was to leave and I were to stay back, that he was leaving for a very good cause, for a very good position, an incredible position. And the funny thing is that we had our family come over and we were withholding this information from them and I told him that he was going to find a job. Mind you, he started looking in November. They were coming at the end of December. I told him he was going to get the offer right before his family came, and that's when we were going to tell him.
Speaker 1:Because we decided not to tell them until everything was set up so that nobody would be involved in our decision making process, because I believe that the less people involved in your decision making process, the better. The only people that should be involved in your decision making process are the people who empower you to be sovereign and to be your own authority. If they want to have you know, give you unsolicited advice or warn you against your decision or anything of that matter like that, nobody should be included. Right? Those people should not be included in your decision making process. You should only tell them once the decision has been made and there's no space for advice or modifications. So that's actually what happened. The day before we met up with them.
Speaker 1:He got the job offer and I say that my intuition is right there. You know, I have the channel of wavelength and there's something that comes through my voice. The Spleenick Center is connected to the road and I say some shit sometimes where I'm like what, where? Who said that? Where the fuck did that come from? But I know that it's so, speaking through me. There's a connection to the field that gets that. That just is transmitted through my voice. And so when I said that, I said it and it happened and it was the best job offer that we could have ever hoped for, like it was exactly what he needed in order to generate the energy that he needs in order to live through his potential. And I am so fucking proud of him and proud of us for really moving through that together, you know, hand in hand, while also respecting each other's needs and making it work. That's such a defined heart thing, you know, just making it work.
Speaker 1:And so he actually just left last Friday and I stayed behind because, you know, he got this job offer and he had to start this week, and we have this lovely girl, harley, here with us, our, you know, pup, and she has to move through this four month process and we're in the middle of it, but she's only free to travel to Europe in March, so I'll be going on March 12 or the 11th and I'm currently in this home that we've been in for the past six months, and it's a really interesting experience because there were a lot of frustrations in this home as well. There were a lot of signs for us to move on and because we were so focused on the vision that we had, we really just sunk into it with everything that we got and we were really trying to make it work. But you know, making it work is not a correct thing. In order for us to make it work, first we have to decide on the thing based on strategy and authority, and then all the other you know, the defined centers come in. So, for example, if my sacred said, yes, I want to stay here, I want to stay in this home, and then my willpower turned on, you know, to make it work because of my defined heart. That's something. But my defined heart doesn't get to choose where I'm going to stay or what it's going to make work if my sacred will say no.
Speaker 1:So that happened and you know this is also something where you're trying to understand where to compromise in a relationship. Because he thought it was a correct idea for him. He thought this was a correct choice to be in this specific home and my sacred role is saying no. But because those decisions didn't align, I didn't know what to do. So I had to learn a lot of lessons through that. So one of the decisions that I did make was, after he left, I would leave this home. So right now, on February 1st, I leave and I chose the place that I would end my time in Cape Town in, and so you know, it's a place where I get to be up on the mountain and I get to see the ocean and watch the sunset every day. And there are some other decisions that I made to have, you know, to be in alignment with my sacred role. So it's going to be definitely an interesting experience to.
Speaker 1:I'm actually already experiencing it as a single definition, as a line two. I'm already experiencing, oh wow, like I forgot that this is, this was correct for me. Like I feel totally different, right, because some modifications already took place, which, once again, I'm going to go deeper into those relational modifications through human design on another episode. And now we're entering, you know, this whole new chapter where we're going back to Europe. We're going to go back to the Netherlands. He's already there. He's already setting up the foundation to receive me. He's going to be there for, I think, a total of seven weeks before I arrive, working at his new job, thriving for sure. And I'm going to be here focusing on myself, waiting for Harley's paperwork to come out and literally just focusing on my mechanics through my design, because I know that there were a lot of things that were off because this relationship, like I haven't lived with someone in a romantic relationship since I was, I think since I was 25, and I am 37 now. So imagine that.
Speaker 1:And when I was 25, I did not know human design at all. I didn't even know that we were all meant to act as individuals or act totally different from each other. I had no idea about differentiation or individuation. And now I get into it. But of course, there's still going to be chaos, there's still going to be messiness, there's still going to be things to figure out. But if you can just take yourself out of that situation for a moment and put yourself in your correct living experience that totally honors every aspect of how you function, you're going to begin to see what is true for you and what is not, what works for you and what doesn't, what modifications you need to make and what worked Right. So for the next episode, we're going to go into that, but this one was just to share about the back end of this past year. That was 2023. And in the next episodes I'm going to go into a lot of details, but that was the back end.
Speaker 1:It was us navigating what it meant to live together after a year and a half of being long distance, and what it meant to be together while also being individuals, having a lot of confrontational conversations. That actually brought so much intimacy into our relationship. We can't imagine. Sometimes we even say like we miss India, not for the suffering that we experienced, but for the fact of how deeply close. It's, almost like we were one soul there. You know, we were just one person. It felt so interesting to have that deep intimacy, that deep partnership. It was really beautiful. And also having that partnership of like we're going to figure it out, but figuring it out for us is not a mental thing. Figuring it out for us was a sacred thing. We figured it all out through our sacred. We didn't even have to think about it. We didn't even have to think about it and it all worked out for us. So, even when things seemed like it wasn't working out for us, it worked out for us and it's working out for us so much better.
Speaker 1:You know, over here, we would have to wait for God knows how long, how many years, in order to just get the first visa, in order to even have the opportunity to enter the residency process. You know how many, how long we would be without a car or without the opportunity of buying our own place because you can't do any of that over here if you don't have residency. How long we would have to move through, like these horrible lease agreements where someone can literally just cancel the lease at any time, which is kind of what happened here, you know. I mean, there was so much instability, and so now we're being redirected to a place that actually has what we both need. Mind you, we are both need motivation. So we're going towards a place that has exactly what we need in order to thrive, in order for us to experience our potential, in order for us to build, which is literally everything that we're here to do as manifesting generators.
Speaker 1:And so every time that it looked like it wasn't working out, we remained with our hearts open, ready to receive the next step, knowing that, even though it looked like it was not working out for us, it actually was. It really, really, really really was working out for us and that has made us so strong as individuals and as partners. It has made us unstoppable. It has made us feel like there's nothing that we cannot do. Now we feel even more connected to the vision that we have. Now we empower each other even more to follow our sacred. So two people in a relationship respecting each other as individuals, empowering each other to follow their own authority. Imagine how far you can go with that, and I'm going to go into that in the next episode.
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